Self-Introspection

Firstly let me tell you that self-introspection means observing your thoughts. In simple words its like revisiting and acknowledging your actions, reactions and thoughts from the past day, month, or a certain time. Basically when you'll start this practice you will be aware of your thoughts and actions. I suggest that you must do this. It will surely bring a very positive change in your life. And you can do it anytime you want. It will help you in making conscious decisions. 

When I started it, I observed that I used to have same kind of thoughts everyday with same reactions to it. I noticed that I was lost in the past and simultaneous anxious about the future, and this observation really helped to a great extent. I noticed that I used to suffer unnecessary and afraid of things that have not even happened. It meant that my thoughts were not in my control. I used to blame circumstances, though things were actually unexpected and hard at that time. But somewhere I knew that things need to change on internal level.

So I developed this habit and things began to change when same kind of thoughts struck again. Now that I started to observe the things, my perspective towards that also changed. It was like, wait it can be dealt in a better way. And I realized that I have been just reacting to things immediately. I used to get annoy very quickly but this habit has somewhere brought a change and I can say that I am better than before. To be honest, I still confront with same sort of thoughts but I don't respond to them now. Thoughts can just be thoughts if you let them be. I don't retaliate with them. And I came to know that my focus is my power. So, now I began to focus on the things that I wanted in life. I realized that when you change the things internally, outside circumstances change automatically. 

And please remember that every change takes time. Patience is much required. You can only bring the change if you want it for yourself and that's the best thing that I have learned. I don't seek validations anymore. This used be a habit but when I self-introspected several times, I found this as the root cause of many problems. My journey is different from others and so is yours. So, neither judge nor be affected by getting judged, as you cannot stop but avoid others or respond accordingly.